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Am I Addicted to Blogging?


Blogging bloggers everywhere. Maybe I should just drink?

My Mom just looked over her shoulder, frown on her face, “I thought you were stopping 20 minutes ago?” I looked up from my laptop blinking sluggishly.

Did I say I was going to stop? I guess I did.

“Well Mom, I thought I’d write a blog about being addicting to blogging,” I replied as though I had thought about it all night, but seriously it just popped into my head.

I was at the library for four hours today. My brother, who was picking me up, texted me and asked me if I was alright. Granted my family doesn’t really understand my deep affinity for libraries. There was so much writing to do! I went home and continued. Until now…which is 1:20 a.m.  This could be a problem.

I try to comment on as many blogs as possible. I don’t want to give a number, because I have a feeling that it may be a ridiculously high number, so I don’t want to know. I try to respond as immediately as possible to social media inquiries. Trying to develop new relationships with new-to-me-bloggers, finding new places to write. Trying to get the courage to send queries to the big boys A List blogs (haven’t gotten those cojones yet, but I’ll keep you posted.)

I plan to wake up tomorrow and spend another five hours at the library, blogging, outlining future articles, writing ideas for a future book, RT, sending messages, liking things, applying for freelance positions, trying to figure out how to do this sponsorship thing, thinking about tinkering with this blog and how to start the new one. And then I’ll come back to my Mom’s and do the same thing. Again. Rinse and repeat. This is not unlike my life on the island.

I take my laptop everywhere, and when I’m spending the night at a friend’s house, I’m doing all of the above. Sometimes I feel like the writing is secondary to the rest.

A writer, who spends more time talking to people and networking than writing? Is this the what the author world is supposed to look like?

When my girl Starr Bryson the head chick in charge at The Insomniac’s Dream tells me she’s writing thirty posts, raising kids, slaying dragons and whatnot, I felt slightly unimpressive. So, I needed to slay some dragons too. Or at least lay some dragons. (what?!) We’re venturing into the land of smut, or erotica if you will. The site: Sinful Dreams. Check it out. I have a feeling it won’t be what you think.

Remember when I wrote that blog post about what is erotica? I guess I figured it out and here’s my first dalliance into it: Just One Night. If you don’t like that sort of thing, please don’t read it, get angry and send me hate mail. If you curious, check it out and tell me what you think. We’re also looking for submissions.

Then there’s the Creative Buzz Hop, which I’m doing with Michelle Liew from Muses from the Deep. This at least will get me writing once a week, and reading a bunch of posts about interesting topics. We try to tap into something that’s kind of creating a buzz around the internets/pop culture etc. Oh! This week’s topic infidelity. (Oooh…what?! smut and infidelity?!) We’ll still have a video (nothing dirty people, no worries) or quote. Maybe some questions to get you thinking about it, and our own take on the topic. I’d love for you guys to join. This Thursday…though the early birds will get to see it on Wednesday. I’ve even registered a hashtag for it on Twitter #creativebuzz.

Hello. My name is Tamara Woods. and I’m a blogging addict. I can’t help it. What about you guys? Do you find your blogging habit is getting bigger? Have you had to cut back? Can’t wait to hear what you have to say in the comments.

Aloha ya’ll!



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S is for Smut: a to z blogging challenge


S is for Smut

Dirty pillows. Engorged man-meat (do people really say that?). Those things that would make this a very embarrassing blog to show my mother. Is there a place for smut in blogging? Is erotica and smut the same thing?

I read blogs, A LOT of blogs now that I write full-time and am in constant networking mode. Rarely do I run across any talking about sex in a blow by blow way. Let me give you an example.

I’m in one blogging group that has a little over a 1,000 members. In the six months that I’ve been in this group, I’ve seen one post from someone writing about sex in a graphic manner. And I was a bit aghast, clutching my metaphorical pearls. And then I thought–why am I so surprised? We’re all adults here, (and this particular group) all women. I’m by no means a prude. I have nothing against porn. Hey, some of my best friends watch porn. (You know who you are.) I wouldn’t even call myself a proper lady. Why did this disturb me? Is it the medium: blogs versus video or magazines hidden under mattresses?

On the other hand, there’s this hilarious blog, bitches gotta eat. She is raunchy, dirty, filthy-mouthed. Just the kind of girl I would probably hang out with. She talks about sex in a very blunt way in your face way. Maybe the difference here is I might be shocked, but I’m laughing. Growing up, you could get away with a lot as long as you made it funny. Have I simply carried this thinking into adulthood, or is it something more?

And I have to admit to you, my dear reader, I still have a hard time discerning between porn and erotica. It feels like the difference is truly in the eye of the beholder. If you have a better definition, teach me. I freely admit that this is an area that I’m woefully uneducated.

What about you guys? Do you find yourself uncomfortable if you run across a blog taking on sex in an explicit manner? Would you consider these blogs porn? Let me know in the comments.

Aloha ya’ll


((PS: Happy birthday John Waters))


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