Self-Compassion for the Holidays | 1000 Speak for Compassion

It’s that time of year when everyone is more concerned with their loved ones, peace on Earth, and our fellow man. I love that you can feel it in the air. I enjoy seeing Christmas lights and menorahs in windows. The general feeling is beautiful.



There’s another side to the holiday season. There’s a hustle and bustle. Making sure to buy the right presents, to have the perfectly pinable holiday dinner, the cutest family greet cards. There’s an inexplicable urge to be the family, whether it’s quirkiest, funniest, or most loving. The perfect representation of *insert ideal here.* This isn’t a universal truth, of course. I’ve just noticed it and thought about it.

I feel like that myself sometimes in different aspects of my life.

I was thinking a lot last week about the pursuit of perfection and how the mistakes I make are magnified by a thousand in my mind. Though most people probably don’t see them unless I point them out. And I gave myself permission to stop. To just be. To feel what I needed to feel, to step back a few steps, and just breathe.

I urge you, my dear reader, to give yourself permission to be as imperfectly wonderful as you are. To enjoy the holiday season without putting undue pressure on yourself. Be in the moment and enjoy yourself. Give yourself the give of self-compassion and love.

You deserve it.


It’s that time of the month where we talk about a different topic for 1000 Speak for Compassion. This month’s topic (fittingly I think) is compassion. Feel free to add your thoughts by writing a post and linking it up. Check out the other posts in the linkup as well. T’is the season and all.

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Aloha y’all! 



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7 Responses to Self-Compassion for the Holidays | 1000 Speak for Compassion

  1. The link up was closed for the prompt – Compassion for 1,000 Speak Poetry. Here’s my contribution anyway. I’m always running behind.

  2. This is such a hard task for so many of us. Sad to see, but 1000Speak gets us all thinking and that is a good thing.
    A lot going on around me and I wonder if I can do what is right for me, but I am the only me I’ve got. Will try and glad you wrote about this very important topic for the month’s linkup.
    Kerry recently posted..Compassion For Christmas, #Christmas #Compassion #1000SpeakMy Profile

  3. Hi Tamara,
    I also wrote against perfectionism at Christmas. Not surprising really. The pressure is on. We’re not hosting Christmas so I’ve at least been let off the hook there but I think my expectations are unrealistic…home made cake, sent 35 cards, writing on the blog, end of year concerts. The concerning thing is that in all this rush and bustle, we can actually run out of time to spend with those we love and a lavish, expensive gift is no compensation for knowing, feeling and experiencing that love. Here’s a link to my post:
    xx Rowena
    Rowena recently posted..The Quest for Compassion at Christmas Time.My Profile

    • Tamara Woods

      It’s a bad habit that we seem to have fallen into . I’m literally living out on an island with my boyfriend. He’s just happy if there’s food on the plate. The extra stresses are all coming from me. I’m not doing it to myself this year. I’ll definitely be reading your post, thank you for commenting!

  4. I totally agree with what you say here Tamara. (And actually wrote something similar.) I love this: “I urge you, my dear reader, to give yourself permission to be as imperfectly wonderful as you are.” Thanks, I’ll do that and be imperfectly wonderful!!
    Happy Holidays to you!
    yvonne recently posted..Life Lessons From a Cat #1000SpeakMy Profile

    • Tamara Woods

      I love that we tuned in to the same idea. I sometimes feel like we (people in general) just don’t allow ourselves to be. We want so much to meet these goals. WE don’t enjoy ourselves and live in the moment. Too much pressure. I’m just going to keep on being my wonderfully imperfect self. 😉

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