D is for Dialogue | #AtoZChallenge

The phone rings a few times and someone picks up. I have a hard time hearing over the sound of WWE blaring in the background.


“Hey,” I said, waiting for my brother to figure out who I am.

“Hey T!” He got it.

“What are you doing?”

“Nothing much, what are you  up to??”

“Nothing much. Is Mom around?”

“Yeah, hold on a second.”

This is an example of what the conversation sounds like when I call my Mom’s house. It’s boring and bland as dishwater. This is not the kind of scintillating conversation you want to relay in your dialogue in your stories. Continuing with the ABCs of Writing, today we’re at D. D is definitely for Dialogue. If you missed letter A, letter B, and letter C, check them out.

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Now going along with the above example, instead of using this boring beginning for a conversation, I could write a dialogue of my mother not being able to hear me, even after the television volume is set at a dull roar. Or we could dispense with the awkward beginnings all together and dive directly into the meat and potatoes of the conversation.

I’m nosy as hell, which is great for writing dialogue! Listening to others talk is probably the best way to learn how people speak. Do you ever listen to conversations going on around you? Whether you’re at work, public transport, standing in line for a Big Mac or what have you, pay attention to what is being said about you.

You’ll notice a few things:

  1. People who know each other, don’t necessary begin conversations the say way as everyone else. Two friends may greet each other with hugs, a silly handshake shake, a shriek of excitement, or just launching right into the gossip of the day. Two people who aren’t as friendly may be more stilted. Mother and small child will have a very different conversation than the mother and her girlfriend/wife.
  2. The pitch changes, the more intimate the information, the lower the volume (generally). They may lean toward each other a bit to show they’re really getting into that conversation. Or bring a hand up to the ear so whispering can happen.
  3. There’s a lot of “Umms…Uhhh…Like…Err….” and other fillers littering the conversation landscape. Also…pauses happen. (However, too much of this in the conversation makes it boring and drag a bit.)
  4. If you’re not looking at the people, you may miss part of the conversation, because there’s silent communication too. Gestures, significant pauses with raised eyebrows, sideward glances all make the conversation a richer landscape.
  5. Everybody sounds different. They ain’t perfect grammar speakin’ automatons. They may skip over words in excite, use slang, speak with colloquialisms, they swear, make loud exclamations, etc. They have a distinct voice.
  6. They’re not telling every single detail of a situation, but you’re probably able to piece together what’s going on.


Those 6 tips that I’ve learned from being a super ninja conversation spy helps me to write conversations that aren’t wooden. But what else can you do to make the dialogue interesting? Make sure you’re not just writing dialogue for your reader. Try to write the dialogue like you’re literally just writing for those two characters…and your reader is listening in. It’s not about the reader, it’s about your characters. Once you  know your characters inside and out, this will be much easier to execute. Yesterday’s post can help you with that point.

Those are it for the ABCs of Writing for today. Do you have any tips for interesting dialogue? Any favorite bits of dialogue you’d like to share? Let me know in the comments down below!

If anyone is interested, I will be hosting a liveshow on my YouTube channel tonight discussing writing goals for the 1st quarter. If you’re interested watching it, but aren’t available at 8 p.m. EDT, don’t fret my pet. It’ll upload onto my channel after the broadcast is complete.

See you tomorrow with letter E!

Aloha y’all!

letter D


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12 Responses to D is for Dialogue | #AtoZChallenge

  1. I’m in my own little world and hardly ever listen to others around me when I’m out and about. Hubby, on the other hand, is always listening and notices some weird conversations.

    • Tamara Woods

      The world is full of weird conversations…and I want to hear all of ’em. muhahahaha… No, but seriously, I occasionally hear some weird stuff too. Then I look around and wonder- is anyone else is hearing this?

  2. Hi! Finally here to read your blog.

    I love your tips about dialogue! Am going to put them to work in my current edit 🙂 I tend to read dialogues out loud when I am struggling with a scene, makes for some awkward acting sometimes 🙂

    • Tamara Woods

      Hahaha! I’m at that point where I’m trying to make sure that everyone has their own unique voice. Reading them out loud will definitely be helpful.

  3. Interesting post on dialogue. I had never considered writing it as though the reader is listening in. Hmm… 🙂

    With Love,

  4. This was a really interesting post – I am a big fan of Nora Roberts and one of her biggest strengths is how real the dialogue between her characters “sounds” as you read her books.
    Leanne | cresting the hill

  5. Great tips for mimicking how people actually speak!

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  6. Came read and liked the post, just so you know
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